One little communication tidbit I have learned through the years is that, at least when communicating with other men, Sports, like the weather, is a convenient, mostly neutral topic than men can converse about at length (mostly) without hard feelings that could occur with more taboo topics like politics or religion. I was never really athletic growing up; I did play little league Basketball & Soccer (rather abysmally); also tried my hand at little league Baseball (was marginally better only insofar as I had a narrow strike zone and could get walks from pitchers unable to hit it).
I want to post a little bit of video…a home movie from my own life; I identify myself with notation in this clip on YouTube. I think watching myself is very interesting, knowing as I do now that I have Asperger’s. You can see how I’m kind of in my own little world, largely indifferent from and detached from my teammates, who are more focused on practicing their skills, while I seem more interested in staving off boredom through exercising my imagination.
I hated gym class in Junior High and in High School, being able to skip PE was a significant motivator for joining the NJROTC unit. I played some intramural sports when I joined the Corps of Cadets at Texas A&M, because it was required. Again, I was pretty terrible at it….But I did enjoy watching Texas A&M football games, and had enjoyed watching my High School football team as well back in the day, sitting in the NJROTC section of the stadium. I actually began to understand the rules & mechanics of football in college and I still follow Aggie football to this day. I also enjoyed the Oilers and the Astros and vividly remember the Houston Rockets winning the NBA championships back to back in the mid 1990s. I still avidly follow the Houston Texans. I’ve even attended some of the local minor league baseball team games near where I live. I’m not a huge *general* sports fan by any means. I have a few select teams that I follow, and if they’re not playing, I don’t care. But I have found it pays to at least know a little bit about what’s going on in sports, and to remember bits of sports history and trivia, if only to have a conversational topic handy to “break the ice” with new people (other men; most women don’t care for sports) I may chance to meet. I can at least converse intelligently on this topic and listen with (feigned) interest to others talk about their teams, too. I’m not obsessive about sports, but know just enough to have it ready in my arsenal of social skills should the need present itself.