Over the years, I’ve had a lot of problems doing things that everyone else seems to have no trouble at all with – namely, getting and keeping a job. Every time I work at a place for very long, it strikes me that I’m wasting my time doing something completely meaningless and beneath me. I spent years wondering what was missing in me that everyone else seemed to have that allowed them to cope with the misery of their lives.
But then I remembered something very important that had escaped me. Back in high school, I came up with what I call my number one rule. Never let anybody make you feel bad about yourself. Every time I felt uncomfortable or inadequate, I thought of it, and I felt better. When I applied it to my struggles with working, it allowed me to see the situation from a different perspective. It’s not that other people have something that I lack. I have something that they lack. The flaw isn’t within me. It’s in my environment.
I no longer have to remind myself not to let other people make me feel bad about myself. I’ve internalized it, and it has blossomed into a healthy sense of self confidence. I encourage everybody who finds themselves feeling like they’re not good enough or like something is wrong with them to come up with a motto or a rule that they can keep in mind when things get tough. It can help you carry yourself through the hard times.